Don’t let stress beat you. Here’s how to live above it

By Uday Patil
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stressfreeWe live in stressful times. We put up with heavy workloads and battle with deadlines. By the time we come home and it is time to dine, we don’t feel that excited about it anymore. Sleep doesn’t come easy and the morning starts with a rush to reach office on time. Continuing such a lifestyle is bad for your heart and head. The only resources we have are our health and the 24 hours of a day to handle the needs of survival.

So, what does it mean to be stressed?

Stress is a response of the nervous system to situations that seem beyond one’s control. It is the internalised result of external overloads. The clinical meaning of stress refers to a situation that disturbs a person’s mental health. This may lead to other mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression. Continue reading Don’t let stress beat you. Here’s how to live above it

Beat the Monday blues. Here’s how you could do it

image courtesy: thedoctorscloset.com
image courtesy: thedoctorscloset.com

Let’s face it: Monday hits all of us sometimes. While there are many gurus, motivators and thinkers who say that if we really love our work there should be no such thing as Monday blues, for regular walking-talking folks out there work is not always the biggest draw, day in and day out. After the weekend, especially if you have a life outside of the office (which is a great thing by the way), getting back to your desk on Mondays can be bit of a drag. Mondays come with its own pitfalls: demanding bosses, deadlines, goals (some of it too abstract to make sense), swipe-ins and swipe-outs, lunch hours etc…. basically a set of rules we program ourselves to follow, but are not really keen on. With a salary staring at us from the end of the tunnel, the whole problem is harder to deal with for some of us. But wouldn’t it be wonderful if we didn’t have to fight Mondays as much as we generally have to? Here’s a quick guide to easing out the Mondays blues and welcoming the week with some semblance of joie de vivre:

If it is too bad, review what you are doing

First things first. If getting back to work on Monday pulls you down so badly that you cannot function without feeling depressed consistently, week after week, the problem is more serious than just Monday blues. It needs fixing. It is a sign that you are unhappy at work. Make a list of things that are not letting you function like yourself, and address them. If you are not yourself, you can’t function normally. This could, in really serious cases, could be a sign of depression. You need to find out what is bothering you and take proactive action to beat your blues. The usual Monday blues don’t hit you consistently. The sign of regular Monday blues is that you are aware of it. It should not cripple you. If it does, see a therapist. Continue reading Beat the Monday blues. Here’s how you could do it

Characteristics that make mentally tough people what they are

thomas-edison-quotesIf things are going wrong (and they often do, if Murphy is to be believed), how you cope up with it gives an indication of how mentally strong you are. If you see an individual all riled up because the job he thought was his for sure did not fall into his lap, you know that the mind is not in the best shape. So that we may understand how to deal with adversities that life puts before us, it is important to understand how mentally strong people deal with situations and what traits they employ to get there. Mental strength is an amalgamation of emotional intelligence, grit, resilience, self-control, mental toughness and mindfulness. Here is a quick glance at how mentally strong people behave, according to Ryan Holiday, the author of the forthcoming book Obstacle is the way: Continue reading Characteristics that make mentally tough people what they are

Ladies, here is why you should pick the nice guy

Researchers say that nice guys are best bets for the longer race
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beniceYes ladies, things are not what you thought. A long-lasting relationship requires a solid character. So, while the ‘bad boy’ may drive you wild and electrify your day (and night) for a while, the probability of a long, happy union with them is far slimmer than your average Joe, because Mr Average Joe has qualities that were hitherto seen as boring or predictable. In truth, his solidity is what contributes to real happiness in marriage, and even passion.

TY Tashiro of University of Maryland and a University of Tennessee study say neither looks nor income were major factors in happy marriages.  Nice guys apparently make better mates in the long haul. Continue reading Ladies, here is why you should pick the nice guy

Body of Emotions

We know that emotions are connected to physiological changes in our bodies. But have you ever wondered how your body feels the emotions we constantly experience? What if you can map each emotion you feel on your body? Here’s a look.
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Just in case you thought that emotions were only felt in an unknown, intangible realm, you’re mistaken. A new research carried out by the Aalto University in Finland showed that our bodies feel the sensations of emotions regardless of our culture, nationality, language and religion. This is because the whole mind-body connection is biological and linked to our very drive for survival.

So when the last time your partner kissed you “good morning” and gave you a loving look, where is it that you actually felt the ‘I’m in love’ emotion? Whether it is butterflies in stomach (anxiety) or the puffin up of the chest (pride), these emotions are universally associated with certain bodily sensations. Based on where these emotions are felt inside our bodies, Finnish researchers mapped the emotions that the body went through. Continue reading Body of Emotions