Researchers say that nice guys are best bets for the longer race
Yes ladies, things are not what you thought. A long-lasting relationship requires a solid character. So, while the ‘bad boy’ may drive you wild and electrify your day (and night) for a while, the probability of a long, happy union with them is far slimmer than your average Joe, because Mr Average Joe has qualities that were hitherto seen as boring or predictable. In truth, his solidity is what contributes to real happiness in marriage, and even passion.
TY Tashiro of University of Maryland and a University of Tennessee study say neither looks nor income were major factors in happy marriages. Nice guys apparently make better mates in the long haul.
These findings have been published by Tashiro in his book The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love. He says that ‘agreeableness’ is what really counts over time.
Women often want a man who is handsome, tall and makes good money. But only 1% of men they meet will fit the bill. If they wise up and settle for average looks, height and income, odds of meeting ‘Mr Right’ goes up to 13%. Tashiro says the tall/handsome/rich type do not guarantee sexual satisfaction.
SO WHAT’S GOOD FOR WOMEN?
Look for someone “courteous, flexible, trusting, good-natured, cooperative, forgiving, soft-hearted and tolerant”.
Tashiro says men high in agreeableness are more likely to be kind, and more likely to keep the sexual desire alive in relationships.
Looks may fade and money may be lost, but nice guys rarely change. Applies to women as well. It is all about the inner you, the spine or, to make a long story short, about character.
Least likely happy relationships are among neurotics. When a neurotic marries someone who isn’t, the neurotic inevitably breaks up with the happier person, one study showed.
While 90% of people marry at some point, only 30% find enduring love, Tashiro said.
In order that the bad boy may keep his genes alive, he has to become a nice guy. It is a good way of survival in the urban world. Earn money, look good and be nice. And bingo! you are there.
Let the bad boys have some fun while they can, because the nice guy will eventually walk away with the trophy.
Finally, this is true in the case of women as well. So, all you bad girls shape up or ship out.